1. Love and affection

You support and accept the child, you are physically affectionate, and spend quality one-on-one time together.

2. Stress Management

You take steps to reduce stress for yourself and your child, practice relaxation techniques, and promote positive interpretations of events.

3. Relationship skills

You maintain a healthy relationship with your spouse, significant other, or co-parent and model effective relationship skills with others.

4. Autonomy and Independence

You treat your child with respect and encourage him or her to become self-sufficient and self-reliant.

5. Education and learning

You promote and model learning and provide educational opportunities for your child.

6. Behavior management

You make extensive use of positive reinforcement and punish only when other methods of managing behavior have failed.

7. Health

You model a healthy lifestyle and good habits, such as regular exercise and proper nutrition.

8. Religion

You support spiritual or religious development and participate in spiritual or religious activities.

9. Safety

You take precautions to protect your child and maintain awareness of the child’s activities and friends.